CHEATING!

CHEATING

I spent two hours over drinks with several respected men talking about their experience being the “other guy”  and having had sex with married women or women with boyfriends.  Yes, I had stories myself to contribute that I’m not proud of. I even wrote a monologue in my play LOVE LETTERS TO WOMEN, called Girls NIght Out, where, well you know I describe what I did with a married women when she was out with her girlfriends and how I felt about it.  I just have to say, it was all the erotic sexual scrap you can imagine, and all the guilt and shame you would suspect. It’s awful no matter what side you’re on if you’re a decent person.   At some point I realized some of the men there tonight at the table started to feel a sense of sadness. Or perhaps disappointment and shame when the reality set in. Hope and security suddenly became threatened to them as they shared their stories and imagined their future or current wives.  Yes, women are people too.  Yes, men and women both cheat. It’s not a gender thing, I feel it’s a character thing.  And for some of my male friends it’s a human thing.  I still haven’t subscribed to that human thing yet. I believe it’s a character thing. I feel there’s no need to cheat. As my sisters have always told me... just break up with the person you are willing to cheat on.  Save your soul, self-respect, and be kind to the person you claimed to love for so long for whom you find yourself “out of love”.  Just leave before you dive into another man’s bed. It will enhance your life and your mates. Believe me.  But I guess for some people it’s easier said than done. Many un-evolved people (yeah i said it) try and have their cake and eat it too. But Cake is fattening, yeah it can taste good, but has no nutritional value, and most people pass on a slice.. leaving always a cake that’s half eaten becoming stale and old and well, nasty.
I’ve learned my lesson many years go...and I hope I can detect those cake eaters from the one’s who want to bake.

If you’re interested in hearing the steamy details of real life cheating stories... just ask and I and my male and female friends have agreed to share on Facebook and on my blog mylifewithgirls.com.  I don’t know why. Perhaps it’s therapy for them. But all you have to do is ask. And they’ll share.